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Month: September 2016

Reminders

Reminders

20160911_160041_001“IT WAS A BEAUTIFUL SEPTEMBER MORNING WITH A BLUE SKY…JUST A NORMAL DAY.”

Joy Knepp, Teacher, Shanksville –Stoneycreek School from the display at the Flight 93 Memorial Visitor Center

On an early New England morning in 1775, on the common green in Lexington Massachusetts, a small group of patriots prepared to square off against a large invading British force of about 700 troops. Moments later a shot was fired, and the first battle of the war to establish our nation’s freedom had begun.

Two hundred and twenty six years later, on “a beautiful September morning with a blue sky…just a normal day” over the green mountains and hills of western Pennsylvania, another small group of brave Patriots waged the first battle of a new war to protect those freedoms fought so hard for many years ago.

“…a beautiful September morning with a blue sky…”

Much like today I thought,  as I left the Flight 93 Visitor Center and began the walk down the tree lined path to the impact site below.   Though the morning was cool, the now mid to late afternoon sun caused me to remove my Harley Davidson of Somerset PA sweatshirt and tie it around my waist.  Kim did the same with her Steelers sweatshirt.  The occasional large dark cloud loomed almost symbolically right over the Flight 93 Memorial Visitor Center, so low it looked like you could almost reach up and touch it.  I guess something in the sky had to be there to remind us of the darkness of that day, joining the reminders on the grounds around me.  Though it was a beautiful day, this day, September 11th would never again be just a normal one.

 

Needing to decompress a little, Kim and I decided to make a trip up to see the family on the farm in Markleton, Pennsylvania in Somerset County. It was a weekend of reminders.

I got my first reminder on Friday while still at home. I got an email via my website from Jimmy P. McLaughlin.  I stared at that email for long time before realizing that this Jimmy was a Jimmy P, so I opened it up.  Jimmy it turns out is a blogger who stumbled upon my website and sent me the following message:

I just discovered this–thanks for introducing me to a kindred spirit… see my blog at stateoflubbock.blogspot.com. Thanks, Jimmy P. McLaughlin  

Thanks Jimmy for helping me to remember your kindred spirit, another patriot, on this day.

By early Saturday morning we were in Western Pennsylvania. I have been to Somerset County many times over the last almost 20 years and thought I was fairly well versed in the farm community life and history.  I got my eyes opened on Saturday by attending the New Centerville Volunteer Fire Company Farmer’s and Threshermens Jubilee.  Another reminder for me, this time of the hard work and sacrifice it took our forefathers to build and feed this great country of ours.

Sunday was church at the Geiger Church of the Brethren. The Sunday school message that morning was about death; how do we prepare? Are we ready?  What in our lives can complicate that preparation? And another reminder…we don’t always get the opportunity to prepare.

After church we had lunch with Kim’s parents at the Eat’n Park Restaurant in Somerset and decided we would just jump on the Pennsylvania Turnpike to go home. As I was waiting to leave the manager at the Eat’n Park asked if I had come from the Flight 93 Memorial.  I explained we were here visiting family. The restaurant is next to the Harley-Davidson of Somerset motorcycle shop.  I told her about the photo my sister had sent me a few weeks earlier of that same spot as she and my brother-in-law participated in the 2016 America’s 9/11 Motorcycle Ride.

“Oh yeah” she said, “the motorcycles.” She then expressed her disappointment that this year’s ride was to be the last.

“They donated an ambulance you know.”

Now in the truck ready to go home, the idea of visiting the Flight 93 Memorial on this day in particular seemed like the appropriate thing to do. I had never been there.  We were directed to park in an overflow parking lot since the visitors were many and walked the paths up to the Memorial Visitor Center.  All around the grounds you could see what remained of the ceremonies that took place that morning or the evening before; the wreaths, the tents, the temporary bleachers, and stacks of chairs.

We waited in line almost an hour to enter the Visitor Center. Once inside it didn’t take long to be transported back to that day with a rush of emotion.  I lifted the “phone” receiver and listened to their voices, those final calls and goodbyes; I viewed their names and faces on the wall and read the stories as the video of the World Trade Center attacks played over and over.  Everyone was quiet and solemn.

We walked down to the site of the impact. The large hemlock gate to the path where the boulder marks the impact site was open today. Only open once a year on this day according to the Park Ranger stationed at the gate.

We stood at The Wall of Names where fresh wreaths, flowers, and notes lay at the base of each stone panel honoring those that perished.

“Thank you for your sacrifice, God Bless You” read one note.

“Your sacrifice saved hundreds, Thank You!” read another.

I read the names again. The names of those patriots, who maybe with make-shift weapons of boiling water, a fire extinguisher, and who knows what else; made the ultimate sacrifice in what was the first battle of the new war threatening our freedoms.

They left their homes and their loved ones and boarded a jet not knowing how complicated their lives would be in a short while. How complicated their deaths would be.  They soon knew they were going to die; they had no time to prepare.

But they acted.

And they acted on our behalf.

And I was reminded once more.

And I will remember.

We should all remember.

 

“Are you guys ready? Let’s roll.” (Flight 93 passenger and patriot Todd Beamer)

Items left for flight attendant Sandy Bradshaw at the Wall of Names
Items left for flight attendant Sandy Bradshaw at the Wall of Names

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My Prayer For Hayley

My Prayer For Hayley

Early one morning the sun was shinin’
I was layin’ in bed
Wond’rin’ if she’d changed at all
If her hair was still red
Her folks they said our lives together
Sure was gonna be rough
They never did like Mama’s homemade dress
Papa’s bankbook wasn’t big enough

And I was standin’ on the side of the road
Rain fallin’ on my shoes
Heading out for the East Coast
Lord knows I’ve paid some dues gettin’ through
Tangled up in blue

(Bob Dylan, Tangled Up in Blue)

 

On a day like today, it’s hard not to think about my own life, my own marriage.

I always thought this Dylan verse was cool having married a red head who changed it all on me one day.  And like in Bob’s song, our bankbook wasn’t very big either; at our wedding we had cold cuts from the deli at the local grocery store, a keg of beer, and a box of wine in the garage.

But it was beautiful.

And Kim, she was beautiful too.

 

My daughter Hayley gets married today.

That is no small undertaking as many of you know.  These days getting married the statistical odds are against you.   They say 48% end in separation or divorce.  Those might be great odds at the racetrack, not so good for planning the rest of your life.

I know that as well as anyone, because I make up part of that statistic.  I had one that didn’t cross the finish line and one that is like Secretariat winning the Belmont, going down the stretch ahead by 31 lengths and never having to look back.

My wife always says that marriage is like an egg, it’s fragile, you have got to cradle it in your hands.  That’s the truth because like Bob described in the song, lives together sure can be rough.  But not every day has to be rough, if you get all four hands holding that egg you can get through those hard times.  And life can be wonderful.

But today is about Hayley, not me.

I have great memories with all my kids. Since I love music, often those memories involved music.  The last thing Donny and I did together was go to Wolftrap for his one and only concert;  a Shania Twain adventure with Savannah where I would like to have a “do over”;  and Alexa, who was spoon fed Bruce from infancy and also shared a love of the Beach Boys and John Sebastian.

But I will say I have some distinct memories with Hayley.

Having beer poured on her head at a Jimmy Buffet show when the server couldn’t see her standing in front of the table because she was that little; front row seats at the Barns where the Subdudes dedicated a song, Sugar Pie,  to Hayley and after the show signed a CD for her; and I can’t forget the old Birchmere, where I was the only guy whose date was ten years old watching Lowen and Navarro who Hayley loved as much as I did.  They opened with “Constant as the Night” and I remember she was excited because that was one of her favorites.

And Hayley and I created some other memories as well.  We took some trips together; like the time Hayley and I went to Orlando for a vacation that still today remains one of my best; a trip to Gettysburg to dig into some history together (Hayley is a history teacher); but nothing tops the time Hayley and I drove the rental truck from Des Moines, Iowa to Fort Lauderdale moving Alexa to her new job with the Public Defender’s office, complete with a cowboy hat, truck stops, and non-stop country music.  George Strait’s Wrapped had just been released and we must have heard it a hundred times.  By the time we got to Fort Lauderdale we knew every word to that song.

That was a hoot.

When I was charged with picking a Father-Daughter dance song, of course I went to Google to search and I got the top 20 this and the top 50 that…somehow however Butterfly Kisses didn’t seem right for Hayley and me.

I got discouraged.

So I busted out the iPod and over a period of days I just listened.

Then one evening sitting on the deck all alone listening to my iPod,  something happened.

I got a tear.

Then I moved on to some more iPod songs, but getting no reaction, I went back to that same song.

And guess what?  I got some more winkage.

So that was that.

I will admit we are going to have a heck of time trying to dance to it, but you can be sure I will have a tissue handy just in case.

 

The truth is that all the joy and excitement of today will soon dim somewhat and the day to day challenges of making a life together will become the reality.  There will be many rough spots, some tough times even… some maybe unbelievably tough.  But those times can be overcome and made good and relationships made stronger in fact, if you have all four hands cradling that egg.

You see, marriage can be an answered prayer.

And so my prayer for Hayley is that God answers my prayer for Hayley the same way He answered my prayer for myself some years ago.

And may she never look back.

Hayley and I on the King Kong ride on one of my best vacations ever.
Hayley and I on the King Kong ride on one of my best vacations ever.
I think I might be getting a Butterfly Kiss here
I think I might be getting a Butterfly Kiss here
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I ripped this off from Hayley’s Facebook.